What are the qualities a prospective bride must have?
Very fair (Indian remember), beautiful, homely and traditional...at the same time must be out-going and adventurous (the modern felons have added to this list)...
The list is endless and ever-increasing.
So what really makes the Indian Girl marriageable material?
Its not like there are any chants or scriptures that need to be read. No. Not really.
She just needs to pass muster with almost the entire family (of the prospective groom) before even meeting the guy in question.
And trust me, there's a long line of relatives and friends waiting to pounce and critique. Its not really their fault. Such is the norm actually.
So finally when she does go through the entire gruel (she doesn't even know she's being scrutinised, mind you; all this happens with just one or two photos in hand), the ball is then in her family's court.
Where the guy in question is given the same gruel by her family (the very same procedure applies here too).
The criticism isn't really necessary though is it?
There's still one person (or should I say a few) who hasn't entered the equation as yet.
The Family Astrologer.
And boy is he of importance.
But this is what usually happens...
Proposal>families exchange photos via email or post>gruel on both sides>horoscopes are exchanged in the same manner>astrologer1>matches>astrologer2 (you know second opinion and all)>matches>astrologer3 (why not a third opinion)> matches>astrologer4 (I'm sure you get my drift by now....>....>....>....>DOESN'T MATCH!
Ohhoo!! Now what do we do? This astrologer(n) said 'NO'.
Should we go ahead? It's the future of my child in question...
Meanwhile, the Indian Girl (unmarried) (child) is impervious to all this. She is quite obviously used to this drill and nothing ruffles her feathers anymore.
The Indian Boy (single) (unmarried) just doesn't feature in this.
Forget about being impervious, he's quite simply put oblivious to whatever is going on!
R.S.V.P if you wish to...